Confusion

I'm kinda confused. At one point, I was told that I could come across as annoying because of my personality. However, when I said that I want to change, I was told, "yeah right..." Which means that I won't be able to because.... That's my personality.

So in the end, I was told that my personality is annoying, and I can't do anything about it.

I'm confused. Don't you tell people that they're annoying because you expect them to change? Then why are you saying that they can't change at all? Why do you discourage them from becoming a better person?
Revaldi Wirabuana
Faculty of Law
Universitas Indonesia