I don't like people cancelling their appointment with me. Especially:
1. When it's on the D-Day
2. When it's bcs of something selfish.

When I chose to spend some of my time with a friend, it's not because of what we're going to do. It's bcs I will have some times to spend with my friends. So please bear this in mind before you make appointment that you will cancel at D-Day. I've cleared all my schedule to meet up with you. if you have another appointment, or if you're on a diet, make up your mind BEFORE the d-day.
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Being On Time

I hate it when people can't manage their time well. For me, if you have an appointment at 12 PM, your goal is to reach the place at 11.45 AM the latest. Always spare some time in case of unexpected delays. In some cases being late is not detrimental (such as going to a birthday party). I can tolerate that. However, when it comes to events or meeting with tight schedules, that is the worst thing you can do for people who have planned it and people who have other plans.

What I hate more then late people are people who intentionally came late because "everyone else will also be late". For your information, I'm NOT like that. Please respect that. As a result, a lot of people are forced to make an appointment under the calculation that the "actual" appointment is the hour after that.

Lastly, I hate it when people who are late scold people who are "more" late. Coming late by 5 minutes is also detrimental. That is not a reason for you to scold at people who are 30 minutes late. You are both late, so don't try to blame it on others.
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Juxtaposition

Do you have that voice in your head that keeps on telling you that you're not good enough?

This is a story of mine.

I have always lived a life of comparison. How could I not? My parents are both multi-talented in their own ways. I was born along with my younger brother, and we were compared with each other right after my first breath. 

For every mistake that I've done in the past, I remembered the first thing people told me; "Ian didn't do it, why did you do that?" or "Ian can do it well. Why can't you?". It somehow created a mindset that something is not considered right/wrong/good/bad in itself, but when it is juxtaposed with what other people do. As a result, I have grown into a person who constantly compared himself with others. Not only to my brother, but to everyone I see as an equal, be it classmate, friends, siblings, or colleagues.

It was very stressful to be that kind of person. In many ways, I have always felt ashamed of myself. I was ashamed of powerless I am when compared with my friends who constantly inspired other people, develop their abundant stocks of talents, and who can impress other people with "populist" talents. Seeing someone who has everything breaks my heart, not because I hate the person, but because I can see myself standing there being completely pathetic in comparison. That voice in my head kept on telling me that I will never be as good as him/her. It told me that all of my ambition to surpass him/her will be futile. That voice makes me doubt myself in every possible way.

I think it's time to stop imposing other people's standard on myself. I know whose standard can be burdened on me, and I refuse to take more burden than what I can bear. Bear in mind that I'm not giving up. It's just that know I realize; I can win in my own way.

Hair Color

So I got this weird hair color. It's a very dark brown (almost black), but if you cast enough sunlight, it becomes a weird brown. It makes me look like a tourist :p

Once I changed my BBM display picture into a picture of me and my friends. My hair was a very striking brown. Then a friend commented on the picture "aldi rambut lo kayak mas-mas salon". It's just sad.

Oh well I love my hair just the way it is.


Revaldi Wirabuana
Faculty of Law
Universitas Indonesia

When one has accepted the fact that the sea and the sky will never meet, that's when one could realize that their co-existence will create the splendid display of horizon stretched across the blue yonder.

A piece of anger

Disclaimer: This is purely my opinion. I am not an expert.

In a relationship, when you expect your partner to invest a lot, it's only fair for you to do the same.

You can't expect someone to stay committed if you act like you're easier than kindergarten pop quiz.

It's just cruel if you want them to always be there for you, while you can't be there for them.

Yes, the rule applies EVEN IF your partner has consented to it.

It's not about the agreement.

It's about how you respect what you expect.

Rejuvenation

Just came back from a one week vacation in Bandung. I know it's not THAT far away to be considered as a getaway for some people. However, I found what I need; some days off to rejuvenate myself. Now I'm back on my feet ready to go all-out for what lies ahead
Revaldi Wirabuana
Faculty of Law
Universitas Indonesia